Social media, is it good or bad? I think recently this question is being asked by a lot of people, especially since Jesy Nelson‘s documentary Odd One Out was released. Here is why I have a love/hate relationship with social media;
For me social media is both, it is incredible but it is also lonely. I say lonely because I, like many many others, compare myself to others from what I see. I can not stress this enough that we only see what people want us to see on their accounts, myself included. I can fully admit that I 75% of the time only post the good, I have recently been opening up more about my anxiety and I do find it comforting opening up to my followers when I’ve had a bad day but I’m not going to sit on Instagram and tell everyone all my worries and issues because for me they are quite private. I do however think that a lot more people are doing this, a lot more people are becoming more and more honest. I find these tend to be the bigger accounts on Instagram at the moment. People like seeing the “real you” they like knowing that you’re not perfect, that everyone has hard days and it’s okay. Mental health in our generation is a massive part of everyone’s lives and social media can have a positive and negative impact, I have met some amazing friends on Instagram that I talk to daily and they have helped me so much but I have also had to take a few days off, deleting my accounts to take a break as it’s all got too much. People put so much pressure on themselves to have the “perfect feed” but what even is that!?
I have noticed so many people recently taking breaks from their Instagram feeds or saying that they have fallen out of love with it. I couldn’t agree more, I don’t enjoy it like I used to, I put too much pressure on myself, I compare myself, I start to hate my feed. Why!? My feed is just pictures of me and my children. I sometimes miss the days of just posting without having to think of a caption, without having to worry that if I post a few hours later than usual that my picture won’t do as well as my others. Well, I’m stopping that now, I am going to start posting what I like, even if it doesn’t go with my “feed” I am going to post whenever I want not at 6.45pm which was previously the best time for me. I want to fall back in love with Instagram, I want to make it fun again for myself.
I am so so grateful for the opportunities I have received from my social media from gifted items, paid ads and days out. I do absolutely love it (even when I hate it I still love it) and I am so proud of what I have achieved, as are my family.